What do you do when you feel alone during the holiday season? Or worse, when you’re around people who tell you that you “shouldn’t feel alone” and that “you’re not alone”. …. in spite of the fact that you Do Actually Live Alone!
The answer is: you be kind to yourself and honest with yourself. (and stay away from those people)
Emotions are Messy and the holiday season is chock-full of triggers for emotions, there’s no doubt about it… and there’s also no doubt, that you feel what you feel. Even when other folks don’t like it.
There will always be folks who want us to tidy up and hide our emotions instead of showing them. They don’t want to, or don’t have the tools to deal honestly with emotions and would rather that we put ours away, rather than remind them of what is still unsettled and messy in this world. So do your best to stay away from those folks… and do your best to be honest with yourself this holiday season.
If you feel like crying, have a cry.
If you’re tired, have a nap.
There is very little this holiday season that won’t survive you taking a bit of time for yourself.
Treat yourself gently.
Treat yourself well.
… and tell the truth about how you’re feeling.
Your feels are real.
Everything else is just a bandaid to cover what other folks don’t want to deal with…
xox