July 2020 – Grief Recovery Ontario

an Alligator with Tooth Troubles…
an Elephant with a Stuffed Nose…
a Turtle with Claustrophobia…
a Centipede with Foot Odour…

This week I am dealing with dental pain. (as I await my dental appointment)

Instead of being at Ki Health and Wellness I’m at home. I’m taking pain meds, not operating any heavy machinery, resting when appropriate, puddling with paperwork when I’ve got the clarity for it … and I’m feeling schtuff about all of it…

We live with expectations.

Most of our expectations are so small that we don’t even realize that we expect things to roll out in a certain way. Until they don’t… and then we feel “Schtuff”.

Like the expectation that you’ll be at your desk at your usual hour.

When something as small as a broken tooth hijacks your routine, your expectations begin to fall like dominos: without time at your desk you’ll get behind on that project you were committed to… and that will mean a delay in A, B or C… and you begin to feel anxious… or annoyed… or both… and you Certainly have opinions about being in pain. This is grief.

“Grief is the Conflict of emotions that happens when an established pattern changes”

When life takes a left turn, we grieve.

Your pain doesn’t have to be greater than mine, in order to deserve your full attention.

When we admit what we’re feeling, at least to ourselves, life gets a little bit easier. When we attend to what hurts, it heals.

If you want to know more, contact me next week… after my tooth gets fixed and I’m back at Ki. xoxo

I was in a parking lot this week and heard someone “toot-toot-tooooting!!” on their car horn as if they were celebrating the Leafs winning the Stanley Cup.

Unfortunately they weren’t celebrating.

The toot-tooter was having an adult temper tantrum and toot-toot-tooting at someone who had taken “their” parking spot, or failed to wear a mask, or some other perceived infraction. Whatever it was, the encounter used up the tooter’s last ounce of patience and they were making it obvious to anyone within a 3 block radius, that they’d “lost it”.

It’s almost impossible to predict what will set someone off these days, because all over the world, folks are working at the ends of their respective ropes.

CoVid has gone on far longer than most of us expected it would and it has effected far more of our lives than we expected it would and most unexpectedly of all… it has exposed the fact that most folks Cope with life.

In spite of what the beer commercials imply, before CoVid hit, most folks weren’t Joyfully living the Life of their Dreams, they were Coping with jobs and kids and unexpected bills. After months of having to cope with CoVid too, our coping skills are tapped out.

Whatever your plans for this year, it’s unlikely that they unfolded exactly as you thought they would.

When life takes unexpected turns and our dreams don’t come true, we grieve. When we don’t have any way to express these daily griefs, they build up in us like steam in a kettle. Grief Recovery teaches people what to do with all these little day to day griefs and that’s part of why I love it.

If you’re not ready to learn new skills, that’s okay, admit what you’re feeling, if only to yourself… and watch life get just a little bit easier.

But if one call to tech support or someone cutting in front of you in a line has you ready to Scream.

You might be CoVid Cranky. See if you can find time for a nice nap this weekend. xox

What’s worse than a giraffe with a sore throat?

Are you CoVid Cranky??

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